Princess Ava on Big Dreams, ‘Big Drains’ & YourDumbWife

LOS ANGELES—What started out as a job while she was in college turned into a lifestyle for Princess Ava Hadley. And home-wrecking has never looked so good. The self-styled “Elite Bitch” from Boston earned her bachelor’s degree in accounting and worked at an accounting firm before leaving to pursue her passion of “holding men accountable” full time. “Being an accountant means I’m great with numbers, which means I have no problem knowing exactly how much I want guys to spend on me,” Hadley tells AVN. It doesn’t take a math major to figure out that Hadley makes men pay early and often. Ava recalls getting a taste of the scene as a sugar baby while in college, but when she met her first dominatrix at a swingers party, something clicked. “I realized that was a more natural role for me,” she says. “I never looked back! I love the true submission of the men and having so much power and control over them.” Now a professional dominatrix for almost seven years—who practiced her art mostly in person before the pandemic started last year—Princess Ava administers her wicked “mindfuckery” to her subs on a daily basis on AVN Stars, where she has rocketed to the No. 1 ranking in the past five months. Though she created her account in 2020, when she started to explore the online dominatrix scene, it wasn’t until January of this year when she began to tap into her potential on AVN Stars. “I immediately realized this was the platform for me,” Hadley says. “It has the edginess I was looking for and the fans who fit in my niche market. The other models are phenomenal, too, and it’s an honor to be working among them. “AVN Stars has been such a perfect home for me. In February I placed third for the month. In March I placed second. And in April I placed first!” Her mantra consists of four words: Send. Spend. Pay. Obey. For Princess Ava, they have and they do. She offers fair warning to those readers who may not yet have visited her on AVN Stars. “If you come to my page, you know that you’re about to take out your wallet!” Ava says. “I’m known for my really big drains, and the guys are lining up to be the ones giving their paychecks to me. “My fans are in love with my voice and my bratty personality. They come to my page for the personal experience of entering my DMs, which are closed to the public. Everybody gets personalized responses and personalized, custom audio sessions.” She specializes in findom, debt contracts, mesmerization, sissy training, key holding, and home-wrecking content.  “I’m definitely the one in charge in all categories,” Ava asserts. “My favorite props are my metronome, my slut paddle, my titties, and your wallet.” Princess Ava, who says she heard about AVN Stars from her friend, Amber Adams, utilizes several of the platform’s features to make the most of her presence. “I absolutely love AVN Stars! I especially love being able to put people on paid blocks, which a lot of people actually come to me for,” Ava explains. “In fact, I have a group specifically for people to join just for me to block them. It’s been a big hit to their pride... and their wallets!” Princess Ava’s groups on AVN Stars include “Ava’s Cult”—for which the entry fee gets members some of Ava’s “holy water” shipped directly to their home. “Holy water will be in the form of my bath water or spit,” Ava outlines in the description of the group. “You will be christened with my holy water and start your journey in my house of worship.” Her “Group Worship” sessions naturally are held on Sundays.Princess Ava also presides over “Ava’s Ass Worshippers”—members receive a daily photo of her spectacular tushy—and “Princess Ava’s Sissy Sluts.” The Sissy Sluts group gets exclusive daily tasks and responsibilities.  “Only the best of my Sissy's can hang with me, and we wear pink on Wednesdays just like Mean Girls,” she says. “… You must pay $100 on Sundays to stay part of the group and continue your Sissy training.” Ava also runs an “Addicts” group and “Gooners for Ava,” among others. She loves to live stream on AVN Stars. “I host ‘Shoot the Shit’ lives that are available for anybody to view—and my model friends often stop by, too—and then I have spicier premium lives for a fee for guys who want a more intimate experience,” Hadley says. Just this past Tuesday Hadley announced a “Bookshelf” competition that incorporates an upcoming live broadcast:How can your Tuesday get ANY better? By becoming my favorite bookshelf of course! What do you have to do? Simple: 1. You must become a bookshelf. You must take a picture of yourself standing up on one leg. 2. You must be balancing AT LEAST 1 book on your head. 3. You must be holding at least 1 book in each hand/arm to qualify and pay the $5 entry fee. 4. The person who makes the best bookshelf will be the winner. The more books(and the better the book selection) the better.Competition ends Friday night at 11 pm, where I will be showing off all of the bookshelves during my live and selecting the winner. Winner will either get a 5-10 min Skype with me or a free custom clip! Best of luck, loser She considers the community she’s built on AVN Stars “everything” to her. “I’m all about community and collaboration,” Ava says. “I do things a lot differently than many other Dommes on the platform. For example, I actively whore out my subs in what I call ‘Whore Out Wednesday,’ where I allow my subscribers to tribute other Dommes and match the tributes to me plus 10%. Most Dommes don’t like to share subs, but I believe sharing is caring! And it can definitely be fun for everyone.   “I’ve been thrilled to develop close friendships with some of the top 20 models on both AVN and GayVN. I believe in helping fix each other’s crowns, not trying to remove them from each other.” Her approach aligns with the camaraderie she’s felt since joining, receiving “so much positivity” from the other creators on AVN Stars.  “They are amazing, strong, totally gorgeous creators,” Princess Ava says. “I respect them, and they seem to respect me in return. “I built my Cult by networking with other models, providing a personal experience to each and every fan, and being true to myself.” Ava found her truth early on in her exploration. After being a sugar baby “for a hot minute,” she realized that game was not for her.   “I’m a Domme to my core,” she says. “I’ve always had a dominant personality and an affinity for findom.” In hindsight, the signs were always there. She recalls being in kindergarten when the boys in her class would fight for the chance to buy her lunch.  “Instead of picking one of them, I ended up telling all of them to give me their money, so I’d have five boys giving me money daily,” Ava jokes. “My mom was confused about where the extra money was coming from! I continued to do that all the way through high school. “And now those skills pay for both my gourmet lunches and my gorgeous, sub-funded condo!” For Princess Ava’s 400th post on AVN Stars on April 28, she did what she does best—she drained: $4/$40/$400/$4000 tributes are to be sent my way on this post. Time to make your Princess happy! #findom #femdom #paypig #humanatm #walletdrain A few days earlier, she asked her followers to guess the make and model of her car. If they guessed correctly, they would get a five-minute audio session with her. “Guess wrong and you owe me $5!” she declared. Hadley says her findom techniques are second nature for her.  “I think I was just born this way,” Ava suggests. “I have a natural skill for finding people’s triggers and giving them exactly the fetish experience and rush they are seeking but might not have even realized they wanted. For any men reading this article, fair warning: I’m highly addictive. “More is just not enough for me. I’m always pushing people to their limits. I never ask anyone for anything, I demand it!” Even though Hadley has posted more than 40 videos on AVN Stars, she says her presence is not centered around clips. Instead she places the focus more on “a personalized experience with each and every one of my fans.” She's known for her custom videos, not clips for everyone. “I’m not fast food; I’m a high-end steakhouse," she says. "You have to be able to afford me, but I’m worth every single penny. “My clips are largely findom-related and JOIs.” Ava says her rapid rise to being one of the top creators on the AVN Stars platform is nothing short of an honor. “I think it’s pretty baller!” Hadley says. “I aim to dominate every platform that I use. I’m honored to be among this group of amazing models, and I’m focused on remaining one of the top stars. “Being among the top stars has allowed me to develop real friendships with other creators no matter their rank and also to get my subs’ wallets involved in my philanthropic interests. I’m not just sitting on a giant pile of cash.” Indeed, Hadley gives back in a variety of ways, whether it’s through her extensive philanthropy or her willingness to share her tricks of the trade with others in pursuit of their goals. She created YourDumbWife LLC—a boutique consulting company—in January with the mission to “empower and teach other sex workers how to promote themselves on their preferred platforms.” “I decided to take what I had learned to a whole new level,” Princess Ava says. “Right now, I take on 10 clients per month for a very personal training program working directly with me and supported by my amazing employees. “My main goal is to help sex workers learn how to promote themselves and not fall into the trap of simply paying for promotions. There are so many other strategies and techniques. It often surprises people when I show them they can make more money with their clothes (mostly) on just like I have. “I want them to learn how to think big and stand out from the crowd. Everyone has a unique gift to share, and I want to help them to find their perfect market.” Ava parlayed the knowledge she gained in business school and mainstream jobs into real-world applications in the adult industry. “I’m a professional, and I treat this like a business,” Ava adds. “I firmly believe that you have to work hard for everything. People might look at my rise and think I got lucky, but sex work is real work, as all sex workers know. I’ve worked very hard for what I’ve achieved and have drawn from my education and my vanilla work experience in this journey. “Sex is the number one commodity in the world, and I know how to sell it at a high price.” Thanks to her journey in findom, Hadley says she has learned a lot about herself, not the least of which is that “I’m an excellent teacher and have the ability to be a trend-setter and influencer.” “I used to think I’d always have to have a ‘day job,’” Ava admits. “I’ve proven to myself that I’m truly an entrepreneur and boss bitch with the ability to build a brand and a company and to hire, fire and manage employees. “I’ve also learned that community is fundamental to me, and building it among my peers is a core part of my career. I am proud to be rising high, but I want to bring everyone up with me.” She says that while she loves taking guys’ money for her own enjoyment—and guys love her back for it—that she truly is inspired by “being able to use my success to help others.” “To elevate other sex workers, to advance my philanthropic interests, and to build a company that helps my employees achieve their own dreams,” Princess Ava says. “The best part of success to me is getting to share that success with others.” When she isn’t working, she loves dressing up and going to clubs and parties. “Who doesn’t?” Ava asks. “But I also think it’s important to help people who are less fortunate. “I sponsor a number of kids in the Philippines so they can attend school and have access to basic hygiene products. In April 2021 I raised $2500 on AVN Stars for a charity that specializes in helping children in the Philippines. “Many of my employees are from the Philippines, and I’ve learned that there’s a lack of sexual education for women over there as well as a lack of health care. I’m currently working with a company who ships care packages and to get customized packages with feminine necessities to be sent to women in the Philippines. “Of course I’m making all of my subs pay for this endeavor!” Even though Princess Ava already has achieved a lot in her career as a domme, she assures this is just the beginning. “So far 2021 has been lit! The flame is definitely not burning out,” Ava says. “… I want to grow my business, grow my presence on AVN Stars, and continue to be one of the top stars. “I always dream big, so my subs had better get their wallets ready!” Photography by Sue Bruce/FinestCourtier.com