BDSM 101 With Julieta Chiara: Hair Pulling

While someone pulling my hair in broad daylight would really hurt me, it somehow manages to be a staple in my BDSM activities. Combined with a stream of endorphins from sexual activity, hair pulling—if done right—is really hot. But First, Boundaries! Before pulling anyone's hair, make sure you have discussed this with your partner. Whether you want to pull your partners’ hair, or would like to receive, make sure this has been discussed prior to sexual activity. If it fits both your boundaries, then it’s a go! Pull from the Base No matter the length of your partner’s hair, always make sure you are pulling from the base of the head. A great way to do this is to run your hand through your partner’s hair, grasp against the scalp, and pull. Check-in with your partner and see what feels comfortable for them. Another effective way is to have your partner’s hair in a ponytail and pull from the base of the ponytail. Grabbing from the base is comfortable without causing damage to the scalp or hair. Pulling from the ends can cause tension that is sharp and unfavorable! Make sure when pulling, you avoid straining the neck through hard or jerking pulls. Incorporate Bondage While this can seem a little more complex, hair is quite the catalyst for amazing bondage. If your partner’s hair is in a ponytail, you can wrap rope or ribbon around the base of the ponytail. You can also use rope to braid it into the hair, using it as a hot leash for your partner. Use this to create pulling motions that feel good for your partner, always checking in! Long Hair With long, luscious hair, there is so much fun to have! Try having your partner braid their hair, and wrap the braid around your hand until your hand meets the base of their head. Perhaps your partner is in godly style or riding, in which you can gently tug the hair. Short Hair Run your fingers through shorter hair, getting chunks of your partner’s hair in between your fingers. Closing down around the chunks, lightly tug the hair. This can be very hot in missionary positions and more! *This post was originally published on SDC.com.